Don't Bite Your Tongue


“With sensitive insight and a wealth of experience, Nemzoff offers common sense solutions and strategies for dealing with difficult family situations. Case studies and real life examples provide helpful suggestions for creating healthy in-law relationships. As the grandma co-author of "Grandloving: Making Memories with Your Grandchildren", I'm frequently asked how to handle tough in-law problems. I'll now be delighted to recommend "Don't Roll your Eyes" as a terrific book filled with practical answers to in-law challenges.”

— Sue Johnson,

“Nemzoff (Don't Bite Your Tongue) advises how to improve troublesome relationships with a variety of nonblood extended family members. She encourages parents to work diligently on avoiding confrontations with their children's spouses and concentrate on their children's happiness rather than their own disappointment. Adult children are advised to focus on the good qualities of their parents-in-law, to always be civil, and to be generous in what they accept as an apology. While in-law sibling issues can run the gamut from accepting a transgendered sib-in-law to participating in long-term care for a sibling's disabled spouse or partner, or dealing with sib-in-laws who don't share the family's values, Nemzoff also provides useful tools for readers dueling with their child's in-laws over the love and attention of their children and grandchildren (who gets to spend more time with them? who offers more financial aid?). She also has advice for those with in-laws from different cultures, religions, and races. Offering plentiful composite case studies, the fair-minded, inclusive, and congenial Nemzoff doesn't promise quick solutions and realizes some problems are unsolvable, but she focuses on helpful ways to improve relationships that with time and effort can be fixed. (Sept.) ”

— Publisher's

The Jewish Advocate, September 14, by Elise Kigner, "An in-law expert offers advice in dinner diplomacy."


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Vision Magazine Online, September 6, 2012. "Good In-law or Bad Outlaw: Which Are You?", August 24, 2012. "Don't Roll Your Eyes: Ruth Nemzoff Gets It" by Laura Mandel

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